In some way bisexuality has presented itself as a bridge between all dichotomies . Humans are actually made up of so many different things beside their gender and sexuality that it seems very natural to fall in love with a person, a human ‘be-ing’, no matter what sex.
For you as the reader I hope that a spark of my enthusiasm and interest will capture your attention and nurture the seed of your curiosity for bisexuality.
Is there a sexless soul , which transcends the body and holds promise of gender equality? Can there be a free-floating gender , entirely constructed by historically specific societal structures of power and so potentially free of biological difference?
These and other questions have sparked a debate in post-structuralist feminist writing concerning sex/gender distinction (Wearing, 1996).
Men seem to have it more difficult than women. There is the notion that intimacy between women is more accepted. Obviously it is even a trend between teenagers to be bisexual, especially between girls. There are even a television series and music videos that touch on the subject.
While female bisexuality sells, male bisexuality remains largely a subject for unease and a perceived health threat through the potential transmission of sexual diseases, such as HIV, into the wider heterosexual community. Is it not the secret thrill of every heterosexual man to have an experience with two bisexual women?
Many bisexuals, especially men, do not identify as bisexual, even though their sexual behaviour is otherwise indicative of bisexuality. They remain unaware of the presence of an incipient bisexual community where crucial safe-sex messages can be accessed, with sexual health education being an important reason for bisexuals to organize themselves more effectively as a community.
Bisexuality seems to be hidden phenomena. There seems to be no place for that choice and there is the notion that bisexual people just cannot make up their mind. Bisexual people seem to come out as gay or lesbian before they then realize that they still miss the other sex.
Bisexuality challenges concepts of sexuality, traditional relationship and family structures, monogamy, gender, and identity. Bisexuals cannot conform or they would not be bisexual. Instead they must re-invent personal ethics and values for themselves, and create responsible lifestyles and relationships that serve their needs even though they do not fit anyone else’s rules.