Long-distance relationships are one of the hardest to work with and many people have no clue as to how to deal with it. Many relationships are struggling and even broken up just because of the distance between them. I would like to start by telling you all, that I have been married for over 18years. I am in a long-distance relationship with my husband. It has not been an easy experience for me, but I have been pulling through. That is why I would be sharing with you how to make a long-distance relationship work. The strategies that have helped me deal with this might help you as well. However, you must know that it is not a one size fits all steps.
The steps might be tough and rough but will work out at the end if you give it a chance. The fear of failure as with every other thing in life is always there to discourage you. I was once in that situation as well, but I realised that I needed to face my fears to move up. So if you are ready to face your fears on how to make your long-distance relationships work, read on.
How To Make A Long Distance relationship work- Plan Your Time
A long-distance relationship can not work, if you do not plan your time and lay down a schedule to fit each other in. The basic need for a relationship is dedicating as much time as possible to it. Draw up a schedule around your partner, make sure, both of you stay at the top of your list of things to do. This can make or break your relationship if not properly addressed. I noticed that each time I default on this, it causes a rift between me and my husband. This only goes to show that, you are not going to be perfect at this, but try your best.
This is one thing you must invest your time and energy into, for your relationship to work out. This will give you peace of mind when you are far apart. Once you establish trust as a powerful force holding the pieces of your relationship together, the rest will be easy to deal with. Always discuss any part of your relationship that you feel uncomfortable with, clear any doubts in your mind with your partner. Never allow your thoughts to get the best of you, as our minds can tend to do that a lot.
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Use Technology To Your Advantage.
The world has evolved so much that the use of technology has made life easier, for us all. Make sure you call each other as often as possible and most importantly skype and make video calls. This is where my iPhone11 comes in handy and never fails me, I’m sure you know exactly what I mean. The connection you feel when you look into each other’s eyes melts the heart and makes you grow fonder of each other. You must know how to fill that gap at that moment, with the way you speak, smile and flirt with each other. This is also a time to concentrate on each other and catch up on many things. Gossip if you must, laugh and remind each other of how much you’ve missed the last times you shared.
This is one thing I love doing, even without my husband’s knowledge, well he knows now. I keep a piece of his items that reminds me of certain times and things we shared. I make sure those things gives me fond memories and makes me smile each time I look at them or wear them. There are times I wear his robe when I feel chilled and cold, this reminds me of his warmth. Make sure to have a little piece of each other, to look at and cherish in times when you have to be apart. This gives you a special kind of connection to your partner and a reassuring feeling.
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There is no chance for a relationship to survive without commitment, If you want to excel at this, you must be willing to stay committed. This is a criterion that must be taken seriously and it is a discussion both parties must-have. The commitment from both parties makes them feel the need to stay loyal and work harder at their relationship. You must also learn to stay positive in the absence of the other.
Making a Long Distance Relationship Work
Stay Busy & Focused.
You don’t want to spend your time lazing around and wondering what your partner is up to at every point in time. Learn to keep busy and stay focused on doing things that make you happy. Make sure you have a carrier that you have a great interest in, listen to great music, keep good friends. These are good ways to keep your body and soul healthy. This is not a time to think about playing detective and pestering your partner with incessant calls. It will give off a bad vibe and can even lead to a break-up, which isn’t what you intended.
Visit each other as often as you can and when you do, remember to make as many memories together as possible. Visit places and make sure you take pictures, make videos and create special moments which you can document. Always spoil each other silly with lovely gifts, that is one thing I always look forward to. Remember to put some thoughts on the kind of gifts you get. For instance, your partner may have just broken her favourite hair curler or comb, be sure to keep it in mind, to surprise her with a new one on your next visit. Little things like that, though may seem negligible, shows how much you pay attention to details. These are healthy ways to create cherishable moments and an unbreakable bond. Great memories give you butterflies and make you giggle at the thought of your last meeting.
Know Each Other’s Friends.
Make an effort to get acquainted with your partner’s friends, this takes us back to make sure of keeping good friends. Be very careful because there are more foes than friends these days and when you can identify the good ones, make friends with them. This will give both of you a better insight as to who you’re dating. Learn to always appreciate your time together, make it worthwhile and treat it as if it’s the last.
These are just a few of what we need to consider to make a long-distance relationship work. I have used all these tips for years and they have been working great for me. Just like the saying goes “distance makes the heart grow fonder” but the heart is not going to grow fonder if you don’t put in the work. Remember that this is not a one size fits all, what works for me, might not work for you. We all have to find our rhythm sometimes and learn to work with it, to get it right.
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