“We have always been involved in spiritual evolution. We are spiritual beings, we have always been spiritual beings and we will always be spiritual beings.” – Gary Zukav
Gary Zukav, author, Seat of the Soul, writes that all occurrences in life are spiritual opportunities and lessons for our souls to evolve and grow. It does not matter how “right” or “wrong;” “fair” or “unfair;” or “good” or “evil” the events are; they’ve all been scripted to provide the souls experiencing them a lesson which, when grasped, allows them to advance to a higher level of knowledge. Others would agree with these sentiments, echoing the popular phrase, “We aren’t human beings having spiritual experiences. We’re spiritual beings enjoying human experiences.”
Within this philosophy, any opportunity to experience pain and/or conflict, especially as pertains to our relationships with other people, are among the richest learning experiences we can enjoy during our human experience (lifetime). What other type of education than relationships – especially romantic love relationships – provides us with intense, emotional experiences, which, when coupled with growth, allow us to fully evolve to a higher level of open loving consciousness and understanding?
If you’re dealing with infidelity in this present moment, we understand this may be the last thing you want to hear, regardless of whether you are the cheater or the cheated on. However, we urge you to keep an open mind. The only way some lessons are learned and forever applied are through the experience of terrifyingly painful events which knock you down unexpectedly and force you to explore the best solution.
Think of painful events you’ve survived in the past: perhaps the death of a loved one, the loss of a job or experience of a traumatic, violent event. If has any of these things have occurred, reflect on the healing process. Did you not eventually find a method to help you work through the painful obstacle and become a more spiritually and emotionally evolved person in the process?
The answer is “yes, of course” you have, and despite the unpleasant circumstances, you are now more than likely grateful to have made it through. Apply the same attitude to the infidelity; this painful, aching betrayal will also serve to be a lesson of spiritual and emotional transformation, one that will, if studied appropriately, guide you to learn more about yourself; who you are, who you aren’t and what talents you gift others with while in their lives.
Also, remember that, as hard as it sounds, all relationships have their expiration dates. Some truly are meant to last a lifetime, but most are meant for a limited season (seconds to decades), ending when the spiritual lesson you were specifically lead to teach or learn within the relationship has been fully mastered.
Embrace the infidelity – whether sexual or emotional, whether yours or your partner’s – with complete emotional acceptance of the event. Embrace every aspect of it in its entirety and accept its reality. Dedicate yourself to the process of accepting and making peace with the betrayal, polishing away the rough external edges until you’re left with the underlying gift: the sparkling endowment of increased spiritual growth, strength and wisdom that comes from passing through the storm. As they say, pressure makes diamonds.